Religion/belief do not have to be fundamentalist. One can be very much a believer and very committed to the ethics of the Torah without being fanatic (it is Shabbat and I am typing on DW but it doesn't alter my beliefs).

Many of the baalei teshuva will tell you that taking on a particular mitzvah makes them a better human being -- more considerate, compassionate, committed. I actually think those who have grown up in the Orthodox stronghold are much less "religious" than these newbies.

A very fascinating book by the former Elizabeth Fernea examines how women Behind the Veil perceive themselves (versus how we perceive them).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Warnock_Fernea

I will look at your rec as well!